Sara’s personality

Understanding My Approach: Psychology, Personality, and Values

If you want to make a positive impression on me, it helps to understand the psychology that defines my behavior and personality.

I'm inherently curious and enjoy conversing with a wide variety of people. It's almost impossible to offend me, and the cordiality of my response will entirely depend on how you communicate with me. I also tend to speak frankly, without "sugarcoating" things, which some people misinterpret and find offensive, though that's never my intention.

I appreciate coherent individuals who write legibly, use correct grammar and spelling, and can articulate their thoughts clearly. I dislike abbreviations and overused slang. Additionally, using profanity immediately lowers your standing in my eyes; it indicates a lack of sophistication. While it's fine to express frustration or end a conversation you're unhappy with, using profanity to emphasize a point reveals a weakness on your part. I tend to distance myself from those who seem easily threatened by anything outside their very limited viewpoint.

I value directness and appreciate people who don't "sugarcoat" their messages. Please understand that I don't care much for pleasantries, I don't get offended, and I'm not shy or embarrassed to express my feelings about someone. That said, the extent of my openness will be a reflection of yours; I will reciprocate your level of transparency.

Core Aspects of My Personality

My personality revolves around the following core aspects:

  • I do not care for pleasantries.

  • I am absolutely not shy and do not get embarrassed. If I hesitate to do or say something, it's because my logic suggests I might offend others.

  • Outside of my loved ones, I do not worry about how I am perceived by others.

  • I do not get offended. You can literally tell me anything, and I won't get upset. I will simply disengage from things or people that don't align with me.

  • I have no fear. The only things preventing me from embarking on something are my logic and my fundamental understanding of everything I know thus far.

Foundational Values I Deeply Cherish

I deeply value the following foundational principles:

  • General empathy and kindness to all, not selectively! This is the single element that defines your soul or essence and makes your behavior and personality incredibly predictable.

  • Loyalty is one of the most important characteristics that produce reliability and trustworthiness in a person.

  • Keeping your word is the best character-defining trait that allows me to judge someone without knowing much about them.

  • Taking secrets to your grave demonstrates integrity.

  • Blood family is meaningless! People with proven values over time are the most valuable.

My Predictable Behavior: How I Approach People

Having said all the above, here is my approach toward different groups of people:

People I Do Not Know Well

These individuals have literally zero impact on me.

People I Know and Have Some Sort of a Relationship With

This group includes my close friends and some individuals with whom I've had intimate relationships. I tend to avoid conflict with these people. I become distant and less engaging to prevent escalating situations, and I will react minimally only when absolutely necessary. These individuals have the ability to hurt my feelings and impact my psychology because I value them to varying degrees.

People I Know and Deeply Care About

These are the individuals who can have the most significant impact on my psychology and can cause the most damage. They will know intimate things about me and will be deeply involved in my affairs. Situations with them can create unpredictable storms that can engulf more than one might foresee. Therefore, I exercise extreme caution and sensitivity toward them. Furthermore, I will be emotionally involved with such people, and having to react negatively toward them would be devastating in every sense of the word.

It's important to realize that if a person I care about deviates from the foundational values I listed above, they immediately become part of the "People I Do Not Know Well" category. They will instantly lose the ability to impact my psychology, and I will immediately view them in the worst possible light. Consequently, my actions toward them will be very predictable and will not reflect the neutral approach I extend to people I don't know or care about.




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