Sara’s personality

If you want to make a good impression and have me view you in a positive way, I list below the intricate psychology that defines my behavior and personality.

I'm curious about everything and I love to talk to all kinds of people. It is almost impossible to offend me; and how cordial my response to you will totally depend on how you talk to me. Also, I do speak frankly (without sugar coating) and most people see me coming off wrong and they get offended, which is not my intention.

I like to talk to coherent people who can write legibly, use correct grammar and spelling and can articulate themselves and their sentences. I don’t like to use abbreviations or use over-done slang lingo. Also, if you use profanity in any of your sentences, this puts you immediately in my low-class unsophisticated person. You can get upset and frustrated or end a conversation you are not happy with; however, if you use profanity to emphasize your point, it shows me weakness on your part and I tend to move away from such weak people who are constantly threatened by the slightest thing that is outside their very limited and narrow view point.

I like direct people who will not sugar coat what they want to convey. Keep in mind that I do not care much for pleasantries, I do not get offended and I am not shy or embarrassed to tell someone how I feel about them. Having said that, the limitation rests with you, in the sense that, I will gauge your openness with me, and will reciprocate equally.

I value “deeply” the following foundational values:

• General empathy and kindness to all and not selectively! This is the single element that defines your soul or essence and makes your behavior and personality incredibly predictable.
• Loyalty is one of the most important characteristics that produce reliability and trustworthiness in a person.
• Keeping with your word is the best character defining trait that lets you judge someone without having to know much about them.
• Taking secrets to your grave will demonstrate you are full of integrity.
• Blood family is meaningless! Persons with proven values through time are the most valuable.

My behavior is very predictable:

Having said all the above, I will list below my approach towards people below:

People I do not know well

These people have “literal zero” impact on me.

People I know and have some sort of a relationship with:

These are my close friends circle, some of whom I had intimate relationships with. I tend to move away from any conflict that arises from these people. I become distant and less engaging in order not to escalate situations. And will react minimally when absolutely necessary to do so. These people will have the ability to hurt my feelings and impact my psychology because I value them to various degree.

People I know and deeply care about:

They are the ones that can have the most impact on my psychology and can cause the most damage. These people will know intimate things about me and will be involved intimately with my affairs; and situations with them can cause unpredictable storms that can engulf more than one can predict. Therefore, I practice extreme caution and sensitivity towards them. Furthermore, I will be emotionally involved with such people and having to react negatively towards them will be devastating in every sense of the word.

It is important to realize that if a person I care about moves away from the foundational values I list above, they immediately become part of the “People I Do Not Know Well” and they will immediately lose the ability to impact my psychology and I will immediately view them in the worst possible light. Therefore, my actions towards them will be very predictable and not the neutral approach I extend to people I don’t know nor care about.