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Discovering Ace: My Journey to Understanding Asexuality

  Introduction: This article aims to demystify asexuality and its profound implications for how we understand desire, relationships, and societal norms. By simplifying complex concepts and using accessible language, I hope to offer insights that resonate with a wide audience. Whether you identify as asexual or simply seek to broaden your understanding of human connection, this piece will explore what it means to be 'ace'—a crucial and often misunderstood aspect of human diversity. Main article: Articulating my own sexuality was a struggle for a long time. Throughout high school, college, and university in Montreal, I knew I was different. While I understood my own feelings well, explaining them to others proved difficult. To outsiders, I often appeared to have a sexual dysfunction. Asexual people often face prejudices, including questions like: Are asexual people just afraid of sex? Are they secretly gay/straight/etc. and in denial? Is asexuality a phase or something they'l...

Capturing the Unconscious Gaze–The Unseen Self

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I've noticed a significant difference between what a camera captures in a still image and what my eyes perceive. When I look in a mirror, I see my usual, neutral expression. However, upon reviewing photographs taken by the camera, I can discern emotions in each frame that I wasn't consciously aware of. To test this, I conducted a small experiment: I placed my hand on the side of my face, partially covered one eye, and looked into the mirror. While doing so, I blinked and simultaneously turned my head to look at a window. During this process, I had a camera pointed at the mirror, capturing rapid images. When I later examined these images, I was astonished to find emotions in my eyes that I hadn't realized were present. These were truly incredible findings. This article will highlight some key differences between how our brains process visual information in real-time and how a camera captures it. I will explain why I think I might be seeing emotions in my camera's still i...

The Weight of My Becoming

  A Soul Stripped Bare filled with Rage Against the Universe —No Mercy Left The Demon Within Screaming into the Void —My Scarred Path Being trans has taken a profound toll. Since age seven, I knew who I was. What I couldn't have foreseen was the immense impact embracing my true self would have, not on me, but on the people I love. My personal struggles have, at times, inflicted pain on those I care about most, leaving me to grapple with a tormenting question: How much agony am I willing to bring upon the ones around me? This is a burden I don't know how to carry. If I could reverse time, I often wish I had chosen a life of solitude, believing my transition might then have unfolded without inflicting such collateral pain. My advice to my younger self would be stark: "Avoid people. Never love, and never let anyone love you. They will become your greatest source of pain when difficult decisions arise. Solitude is strength; it allows you to live your truth without fear of con...

To my dearest loved-ones, especially S.

To my dearest "Fam-Loved-Ones," especially S., The term "Fam-Loved-Ones" encompasses those individuals who hold an irreplaceable place in my heart. My life and the dynamics within my household are intricate and, by necessity, have remained private, shared only with my deeply cherished "Partners-in-Life." This unique family of four, including myself, came together under extraordinary and unusual circumstances. This morning, a message from a "Fam-Loved-Ones" member, S., struck me deeply. They expressed that despite my efforts to feminize my body, I still appear as male. They suggested this must be evident to me in the mirror and asserted that I would never be seen as a woman by others. They pointed to the engagement Kissra receives on social media as evidence, attributing it to her being a cisgender woman. The message concluded with the assertion that regardless of my internal feelings, I must accept my physical reality as male and that my continue...

Beyond Physicality: My Perspective on Attraction

  About My Bonds, Attractions, and Content My relationships with Kissra (from high school) and Kate and Angie (from my adult-entertainment days in Montreal) were never rooted in physical attraction. Instead, circumstance brought us together, and over time, our interactions blossomed into an inseparable and deeply loving bond. Therefore, please understand this fundamental truth: my physical attraction includes all body types, shapes, colors, backgrounds, genders, and sexes. What I am most attracted to is your personality, your mind and how you think. If you are kind, positive and full of life I will be very attracted to you. If you live authentically no mater how weird you may be, I will be drawn to you. My relationship with my partners are unique in nature and the circumstances that brought us together were unusual. Due to privacy I can only post content of myself and my partners, and not others.  Please be kind in your DM's. Do not assume and ask me instead; and if you want m...